Being vulnerable equates to the capability of being physically or emotionally wounded. Being vulnerable can mean easily opening yourself up to attack, hurt or injury. How can something that sounds so terrifying be such a powerful tool?
Vulnerability is a super power.
Many people keep their heart close, their emotions and opinions suppressed, and their experiences under a tight wrap. You know the feeling of struggling to keep anger, happiness, or any other emotion suppressed? It doesn't feel good and what you're doing is stuffing it down deeply into your self. Over time, these suppressions erode and explode, or they can present as health issues and a gradual change in who you are at your core.
I used to be fearful of who I spoke to, not trusting those around me, and not allowing my true self to come out. After a major life event, I had a breakthrough. Realizing where this fear stemmed from allowed me to be myself. I was open to helping others through talking about my own experiences. I began to share my true thoughts, opinions and values. Not only did my friends and family notice the new energy I was exuding, I felt amazing being able to finally speak without constraints. I could connect and be vulnerable with those around me.
An interesting thing happens when you're vulnerable. Those you're vulnerable with relax. They see you as a safe person and before long, you're hearing their own personal issues, stories and experiences they kept locked away. You have become the key that unlocks their inner world but also, the relationship formed is stronger. This is where a solid foundation for a successful relationship begins.
When you open up emotionally, share your personal opinions, thoughts, desires and fears, you are being authentic. Having the power to be vulnerable equates to confidence and honouring your true self. Taking the 'risk' of vulnerability is vital to form deep connections, emotional intimacy and trust with others close to you.
Being vulnerable is also about honesty, transparency and being willing to admit you are in the wrong.
Does it feel good to swallow lies, blame others or mislead someone? Most would say no. It sticks in your throat and gets pushed down to where the rest of your suppressions lie. Speaking your truths, even when it may hurt someone else, is being honest with that person and yourself. It's being transparent and showing others what's going on inside your world and admitting when you've made the error. Others see you as trustworthy and feel safe doing the same with you.
Being vulnerable when you've spent so long sucking it up isn't something that happens overnight. It will feel awkward the first time you practise vulnerability. And yes, it's a practice... until it's second nature.
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